We are in the midst of a huge movement. The movement of self-love. Seems ridiculous that we need a movement to learn how to love ourselves, but somewhere along the way we got lost. Maybe it’s social media, maybe it’s Photoshop, maybe it’s the added pressure to succeed these days… But whatever it is, we as a society lost the ability to love ourselves, flaws and all.
Don’t get me wrong...I love this movement. I love that people are starting to treat themselves with kindness. People are starting to love their stretch marks, their scars, their unique noses, etc. BUT...I am worried. I’m worried that people are using the term self-love as an excuse to run from any form of change or self-improvement.
I was really struggling with this idea. I got following a few people on Instagram who were preaching body love, body acceptance, and self love. All great things. However, I found myself feeling guilty for wanting to work out. I really love to workout for all the health benefits of course, but I’m not going to lie to you, I would also love a six-pack and a tight tush just like the rest of the world. So does this mean I don’t truly love or accept myself? The conclusion I came to is… HECK NO!
Self-improvement and self-love are not opposing ideas. Self-improvement is not a dirty word. There is nothing wrong with wanting to better yourself. Self-improvement and self-love should go hand in hand, like peanut butter and jam. Wanting to improve yourself doesn’t mean that you don’t love yourself for who you are, it only means you love yourself enough to be the best, fullest, realest version of yourself.
Stop hiding behind “self-love” so you can continue to sit on the couch watching Netflix, letting life just happen to you. Real self-love involves spending time daily working on you. Exercise, eat well, take classes to learn new skills, read books on how to conquer the world, etc. Do all this because you love yourself too much to just remain the same.
We as humans have this amazing gift… the ability to change. We can lose weight, gain weight, get stronger, get faster, get smarter, get better, become nicer, become more confident… I could go on and on but I think you get the point. So do it. Pick an area of your life that you would love to improve and dedicate at least 1 hour a day to improving it. If you don’t know how, hire someone who does (insert shameless personal training plug here, wink wink). Take a class. Hire a professional. Watch YouTube videos. Read a “for dummies” book. I don’t care how, just go do it.
Love yourself enough to go out there and live your best life and become the BEST version of your beautiful self.